Inside: Learn what JOMO is and why you should embrace it in your life.
At some point or another, most of us have experienced FOMO – the fear of missing out.
And it’s easy to see why.
The anxiety-driven need to be involved in everything was largely created by the rise of social media.
When your feed is an endless stream of lavish parties, glamorous trips, and shopping sprees, it’s easy to feel like you’re missing out on something when you’re sitting at home, or at work, not doing anything particularly exceptional or adventurous.
It damages our self-esteem, lowers our sense of self-worth, and diminishes the satisfaction we get from our everyday lives.
Fortunately, there’s a new trend on the rise – JOMO, or the joy of missing out. It might sound a little counterintuitive, but celebrating the decision not to succumb to that social pressure and the desire to do everything can benefit us in some big ways.
Not sure how JOMO can change your life for the better? Keep reading to see how JOMO might just be the best thing that’s happened to us in a long time.
Why should you embrace JOMO in your life?
JOMO is a mindset shift that can totally turn around the way you view your life – and the world.
Slowing down and focusing on finding joy in the little things can help you reduce anxiety, improve your mental health, strengthen your relationships, and more.
Here are just a handful of reasons you should consider replacing FOMO with JOMO in your life:
JOMO can enhance your mental health and well-being.
In today’s fast-paced, perpetually connected society, many of us are suffering from burnout. We’re anxious. We’re stressed. We feel like we aren’t doing enough – even when we’re totally overburdened.
The constant pressure to do everything is a huge driver of that negativity. We feel obligated to overload our schedules with personal projects and social commitments, leaving little time to relax and decompress.
And then we feel inadequate as we compare ourselves with others – in many cases, people we follow on social media that we don’t actually know.
We watch as they attend over-the-top parties, take once-in-a-lifetime trips, and share carefully curated glimpses of their immaculate homes with the rest of us.
By shifting your mindset to embrace the joy of missing out, you can disconnect from those social media updates – and feel good about it.
You can slow down and focus on yourself and your priorities instead of others and the pressure they put on you – directly or indirectly.
When you aren’t comparing yourself with others, you can more clearly see and celebrate all of the wonderful things that you already have in your life.
JOMO lets you live in the present.
We feel FOMO when we’re constantly comparing ourselves to others.
We can’t find satisfaction with what we have because we’re chasing the status, experiences, and success that others have achieved.
With JOMO, you can truly live in the present. Instead of looking at what others have, we can focus deeply on what we’ve achieved for ourselves.
We can celebrate our wins, find happiness in the activities we love, and make the most of the little moments in our lives.
JOMO can cultivate stronger, more meaningful relationships.
When you embrace JOMO, you don’t feel obligated to say “yes” to every single invitation that comes your way. You don’t have to go to that party, show up to that fundraiser, or attend that festival.
Instead, you can spend your time cultivating closer connections with the people you truly want to surround yourself with.
When you aren’t preoccupied with what other people are doing and who they’re spending their time with, you can focus on your own relationships with those who matter most to you.
You can give the people in your life your full attention and show up more authentically.
JOMO can boost your productivity and help you reach your goals.
When you’re preoccupied with the fear of missing out, you end up sacrificing a ton of your personal time.
You attend events you’d rather not be at. You try to build relationships with people who don’t actually matter to you.
And you probably spend more time than you’d like to admit scrolling through social media, wishing you could live like the people on your feed.
When you shift your mindset to embrace the joy of missing out, your schedule becomes a lot more open – which gives you valuable time to spend on things that matter to you.
Many people who take a JOMO approach to life find that they’re more productive because they’re focusing on the goals they want to achieve, as opposed to more superficial pursuits.
How can you embrace JOMO in your life?
Ready to say goodbye to FOMO and start to live a more joyful life? Here are a few simple steps you can take today to make the shift:
1. Be intentional with your time on social media.
For many of us, checking our social feeds has become a habit, a reflex, something we do without even thinking about it. Be more intentional about the way you spend your time online and cut back as much as needed.
Be thoughtful about who you follow and reflect on how social media influences your life. Consider doing a digital detox to gain perspective.
2. Learn to say “no.”
Many of us feel guilty about turning down an invitation, even if it’s something we’d rather not do. It takes practice to get confident in saying no to things that aren’t in alignment with your goals and needs.
By learning to decline and prioritize your own time, you can spend it in more fulfilling ways.
3. Make self-care a priority – whatever that looks like for you.
Find ways to relax, recharge, and nurture your body and mind.
Go for a walk, read a book, write in a journal, or simply get outside and soak up some sunshine. Figure out what self-care habits will help improve your overall well-being and include it in your schedule.
4. Reframe your mindset.
If you struggle with feelings of missing out, be intentional about choosing joy and prioritizing yourself.
You’re not missing out – you’re making space to notice the simple joys and to appreciate the people, things, and activities that matter most to you.
How could you benefit from embracing JOMO in your life? Leave a comment and let me know!
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I have been forced to miss out due to age and serious issues. ( Not being able to walk or drive.) My husband never has been social, even with me. So for me to keep up with friends I have been using my time that I do “cubii” exercise to strengthen my legs, hoping to walk again. I try to call at least one friend each day to visit with, and/or I watch spiritual videos. Makes boring exercise joyful and social able and makes other friends, many who also are limited , feel loved and cared about. We both win. Hope to get back to real life again, but at 83 it’s not for sure. But I feel better doing this in the meantime.
I love this!! During the time in which my oldest had moved out and married spending her every free moment with her new hubby, my middle child had found the love of her life and was with him most of the time as well, and my son my youngest was still in high school but very social as most kids are I finally had found time to live in JOMO!! Then my dear mother had a heart attack, a month in the hospital with her then during the year after needed extra help while recovering. Then my middle child was getting married, which involved working on wedding plans and then my son soon followed and was marrying a girl whose parents weren’t involved much in the wedding plans, so we took it upon ourselves. In the midst the oldest daughter had our first grandbaby and now the second daughter is expecting. The youngest has moved back in our house with his new wife just trying to get ahead enough to build on our family farm. And now the oldest has decided to move back to the family farm as well and we just spent the last 2 days helping them move. I’m too old for this and literally sore as a boil…. LOL but I’m very grateful to have my kids so close. I guess we’re still somewhat cool or maybe we’ve been too much help, and they realize life is easier with mom & dad in it… LOL… idk… but I do know I’m soooooo ready to get back to living in JOMO once again… It really was so nice!!! I’ll get there again!! Lord willing!!!
Thanks for sharing, Alicia. That does sound like a lot happening but lovely to have your family so close.
Someone said “Comparison is the thief of joy”. Boy did they ever have that right! It is especially true with reference to social media. People posting about their full and happy lives are surely only showing you the positive things that are just PARTS of their lives. Remembering that you aren’t seeing the all of their experience——there’s lots of curating going on in social media, YouTube videos, Instagram and Facebook (excuse me, X). Things for them may not all be sweetness and light so any comparison that you might make between their perceived life and yours should take into consideration the possible negatives that they are not sharing with you and the rest of the world.